How do I create my own reality?

Each of us is creating our own personal reality all the time. In addition, together, people and other creatures create and share a shared reality. You said, “like the lizzies” in your question details. I checked online and found an all woman hard-rock band. I don’t know if that is what you meant by the lizzies or not, but I can go with it.

If you want to know how to create your own reality, I invite you to try this experiment. It will take a few hours, but it is time well-invested.

Pick 5 very different types of music, say: female band hard rock; Beethoven symphonies; native flute including Carlos Nakai; and two more. Then go to YouTube and immerse yourself in at least half an hour of that type of music without interruption. Choose at least one type of music you do not like. For types you like, feel free to hang out for a couple of hours. (Of course, you don’t need to do this all at once. You can do it over the course of a week.

Then imagine spending several years listening to only one of those types of music, and then a different one, and then the others. Really envision this. Do you see how you could immerse youself in any one of these different realities. Do you see that you would dress, speak, and maybe even eat differently if you did? Do you see how your sensory system would change?

Now, take it further and imagine becoming a musician in each of these five different forms. Don’t worry if that takes talent you don’t think you have. Just go with it. Do you see how, by your own choice, you could live in a different personal reality and create a different experience of being you?

And that is just music. You can do the same with food; with locations such as nations, cities, and experiences in nature; and with many more things. You can even find documentaries on YouTube and Netflix about people creating lives of all different types.

All this is within your reach.

A great resource for getting there steadily is Julia Cameron’s The Artists Way.

Now, one last note. A person who doesn’t do this - and that is most of us - a person who listens to the music and watches the TV shows that others recommend - a person that gets into relationships that are like the relationships he or she had with parents - a person who gets stuck in a dead-end job - all these people are each creating their own reality just as much as the Triple X sports adventurer and the rock star are. In choosing to let others script our reality, we are creating a personal reality - maybe one we don’t want.

Come join the adventure! What will you choose?